Celtic Valentine Romance
by Cornelia Amiri
The holiday of love, will soon be upon us and Celtic/Romance and Valentine Day go together quite nicely. After all Saint Valentine rests in the Emerald Isle. In 1835, when visiting Rome, an Irish Carmelite, John Spratt, renowned for his preaching skill was honored by Pope Gregory XVI, with the token of the remains of Saint Valentine. John Spratt brought them to rest at the church he’d built to Our Lady of Mount Carmel at Whitefriar Street in Dublin. The shrine housing St. Valentine is visited by couples in love throughout the year.
Even in ancient times love and marriage were held in high esteem by the Celts, so much so, they had more types of recognized marriages than any other culture. Under the Brehon (Brehoon) laws of Ireland, there were not one, but 10 types of marriage. I’ll list them.
1. The man and wife contributed an equal amount of property or finances.
2. A woman moved to the man's property and contributed little or nothing financially but managed the housekeeping.
3. A man moved to the woman’s property and contributed little or nothing financially but managed her cattle and her fields.
4. The husband and wife both had property and managed their own individually, but the children's rights were still safeguarded.
5. By mutual consent the man and woman shared their bodies, but lived under separate roofs. I call that the have your cake and eat it too marriage.
6. A man abducted the wife of a defeated enemy. So the woman came to that marriage as a spoil of war.
7. The man and woman got together only for one night of sex. In modern times we have a slang expression for this relationship, we call it a one night stand. The Celts had an expression as well, they called it a soldier's marriage.
8. A man seduced a woman by lying to her or by taking advantage of her while she was drunk.
9. A union by forcible rape. The ancient tale of Camma and Sinorix detail what Celtic women felt about this marriage. After Sinorix killed Camma’s husband and forced her to wed him, Camma put poison in the ceremonial wedding cup which they both drank from together. Vengeance against Sinorix was more important than her own life. She used the marriage as a means for revenge.
The Welsh, under the laws of Hywell (whowell) the Good, had the same types of marriages as the Irish, except for number ten.
All types of banter must have occurred regarding these marriages. Going by the way I numbered the marriages, instead of Yo Mama, they might have said something like, “Oh, you must have been born from a number ten marriage.” And they could have more than one spouse, so an ancient Celtic man or woman could have several combinations of marriages.
Can you imagine meeting someone and asking not “are you married?” But “what number marriage do you currently have?”
They might reply, “Oh, I have a number one and a number five and of course a couple of number sevens.”
And I thought modern day dating was complicated.
To modern man, it seems silly or even cruel to refer to some of these unions as marriages. But it isn’t, because these marriages were not for the benefit of the man or woman, they were for the protection of the children. By recognizing all these unions as legal marriages, the Celts insured there were no illegitimate children. A child born of any of the 10 unions would inherit like any of their parents’ other children. Also the land did not go to the eldest son. The estate was split between all children including the daughters.
Handfasting was another type of Celtic union, it lasted for only a year and a day. It predominantly took place at Lughnassadh (LOO-nahs-ah), the Celtic Harvest festival, celebrated August 1. Single men lined up on one side and unmarried women on the other. They paired off and married for a year and a day. The couple’s wrists were literally tied together during the ceremony. This is where we get the expression "tying the knot". The couple had to return to the same place the following year to make their marriage permanent. They could also end the union at that time by simply standing back to back, facing north and south, and walking out. Going their separate ways, single once more.
Fruit gathering was also part of Lughnassadh. And this was romantically done as young men and women paired off to pick bilberries and didn’t return until nightfall. This included the sweet custom of boys threading the berries into bracelets for the girls to wear that day.
Another important festival for the ancient Celts was Beltaine (bell-tayn), which in modern times we call May Day. The May Queen led the Beltane procession with her ritual courtship of the Green Man. These symbolic marriages of the god and goddess, in the form of King and Queen of the May, were mirrored in human courtship. One of the most popular May Day traditions was to set a basket full of spring flowers or other small gifts at a neighbor’s house without them seeing you. If you got caught, they would chase and then kiss you. Courtships for the ancient Celts would often begin at Beltaine and the marriages would be held at Samhain (Sah-van), which in modern times we call Halloween.
Samhain, as the beginning of the New Year, was the main season of weddings for the ancient Celts. A tradition that survived in Wales, in Montgomeryshire, was on Samhain they made a mash of nine ingredients: potatoes, carrots, turnips, peas, parsnips, leeks, pepper, salt and new milk. A wedding ring was hidden in the mash. Teenage girls dug into the mash with wooden spoons, anxious to learn their fate, for the one who found the ring would be the first one married. The way it was done in Carmarthenshire, was that on Samhain, nine girls made a pancake together, containing nine ingredients, divided it among themselves, and ate it. Before dawn, each girl would have a vision of her future husband.
So you can see romance was as important in ancient Celtic times as it is today. For as the poets say . . . love is timeless.
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